I took the opportunity this week to engage in a meaningful conversation with my Mom. My conversations with her recently have been focussed on my Dad’s declining health and caretaking needs as they find themselves in a new stage of life. They have recently decided to sell their home and move to the city where they will have easier access to the care and services they need and be in a home that has minimal upkeep and is all on one level. Very wise. Very pragmatic. Very much focussed on what is needed in any given moment. And I felt the need to stop for a moment with my Mom and hang out in the place of curiosity. She was happy about the opportunity to be asked these questions, to have the conversation focussed on her and to share what she is about.
What are you most proud of?
Of my family – that’s the first thing. I’m so proud of every one of you – no exceptions. And perservering through struggles and challenges.
What makes you happy?
That everybody is healthy and that I’m healthy. With your Dad, I take it day by day.
What makes you sad?
Immigrating to Canada (from the Netherlands); leaving everyone and everything behind. The emotion is still there after all this time.
I wish I had…
Oh, I don’t know. I don’t wish for much. I wish I had learned how to drive a car.
What do you fear?
Moving into a new home. It’s a big step. But I can do it. I feel positive about it. I know it’s the best for both of us. I’ll have more independence there.
My best advice is…
Stay true to yourself. Try to do your best. And don’t hurt yourself by looking back too much and falling into regret. The good things overpower the bad. My life is good. Beautiful little Hailey (her new great-granddaughter) brings me a lot of happiness.
What inspires you?
To be outside. To enjoy nature. I learned a lot from your Dad. He taught me to appreciate nature.
Who is your hero?
I think your Dad is.
What do you long for?
That we may be together for a long time yet. Dad has such a good heart, in both ways. I’m so lucky. I enjoy the simple things.
What question should I ask you now?
What’s your main thing in life? It’s my family – it has been my life, my purpose.
Simple. Pragmatic. Focussed. That’s my Mom.
